Welcome to The Love Loft, where we explore everything about love and relationships. I'm a former matchmaker and relationship coach with over a decade of experience. Through my journey, I've identified 8 unique Love Loop relationship patterns. Today, we'll dive into two of these patterns: GlobeTrotters and Trophy Chasers. Understanding these patterns can help you stop sabotaging relationships and attract happier, healthier love while developing revolutionary self-love.
Why Knowing Your Love Patterns Matters
Understanding your Love Loop pattern is like having a secret map to your heart. It can help you:
- Stop Sabotaging Relationships: Recognize behaviors that might be hurting your love life.
- Attract Healthier Relationships: Use your pattern to find better matches.
- Develop Self-Love: Learn to appreciate and love yourself more.
- Heal and Transform Generational Triggers: Address and overcome deep-seated love blocks passed down through generations.
- Next Level Living: Unlock the potential for a more fulfilling and elevated life.
What is a GlobeTrotter?
Imagine someone who seems super confident and looks like they have it all together when it comes to relationships. That's a GlobeTrotter. But, deep down, they might be scared of commitment because they fear failure and want everything to be perfect. This fear can make them stay single for a long time.
Even though GlobeTrotters appear confident, they often struggle with low self-esteem and are afraid of being vulnerable. They worry about being rejected and not being good enough. This makes it hard for them to share their true feelings and be emotionally available in a relationship. Instead of going with the flow of commitment to the relationship, they typically try to control everything and focus too much on their partner’s flaws.
If a Globe Trotter wants to attract more love and next level living they must fully commit to doing the uncomfortable inner work of fully removing the mask they've learned to navigate life with in order to get to their most authentic self. The more honest, transparent and authentic they become with themselves the more they will embrace vulnerability.
This new deeper relationship with self, self awareness and vulnerability will foster deeper emotional connections, understanding and authentically aligned love with others.
It's extremely important for a Globe Trotter to understand that they must peel back the layers and go deep under the surface to have the love they actually desire, or they will not attract it. It's that simple.
They must challenge themselves and become extremely curious about who they truly are and the life they have created for themselves to differentiate between their authentic selves and desires vs who they were programmed to become through childhood and life experiences.
The longer you take to remove blocks that's keeping you from being your most whole, authentic self and emotionally available, the longer it will take to attract love and your next level.
Key Traits of GlobeTrotters:
- Fear of Commitment: GlobeTrotters are often perfectionists, which makes them afraid to fully commit to a relationship. They worry that if everything isn't perfect, it will fail.
- Confident Exterior, Insecure Interior: On the outside, they seem very sure of themselves, but inside, they struggle with feelings of low self-worth and fear of rejection.
- Red Flag Focused: They tend to focus on the negative aspects of their partners, which prevents them from seeing the good qualities and forming deeper connections.
- Control Issues: They try to control the direction and outcome of the relationship instead of letting things unfold naturally.
- Difficulty Being Vulnerable: Sharing their true feelings and being emotionally open is tough for GlobeTrotters because they fear being hurt.
What GlobeTrotters Experience:
- Loneliness: Despite seeming confident, their fear of commitment and focus on flaws can lead to long-term singleness.
- Anxiety: Constantly worrying about being perfect and fear of failure can cause a lot of stress.
- Disappointment: Because they don't give partners a fair chance, they often end up disappointed and believe that no one is good enough for them.
Tips for GlobeTrotters:
- Be Brave and Show Interest: Take the first step and show someone you're interested. It's okay to be a little vulnerable.
- Be Open: Try to see the good in your partner and be open to who they really are.
- Spend Time with Healthy Couples: Being around couples who have strong, healthy relationships can provide a good model for what to strive for.
- Let the Relationship Develop Naturally: Stop trying to control everything. Let the relationship grow on its own.
- Fully Commit Unless There Are Big Problems: Give the relationship a real chance unless there are clear issues like constant fighting or major differences.
What is a Trophy Chaser?
Now, let's talk about Trophy Chasers. These are high achievers who don’t always feel worthy of love. Even though they seem confident and attract great partners, they secretly feel they don’t deserve love or commitment.
At first, Trophy Chasers are often pursued by others. But when they start showing interest, the dynamic flips. The person who was chasing them backs off, and the Trophy Chaser feels like they have to work hard to keep the relationship. This makes them feel they need to prove they’re worthy of love.
For a Trophy Chaser to attract love and their next level they must stop trying to outsource security and proving their worthiness of love, and shift their energy onto creating personal security and self love.
Creating personal security and self love for a Trophy Chaser typically requires being fully committed to their vision for their Captivating life and their vision of love, with boundaries. This is an act of self love for Trophy Chasers. Instead of self abandoning and losing yourself in relationships, learning to create more balance by creating a secure, Captivating life will place less pressure on your partner and relationship and make them a more desirable partner for love and commitment.
Key Traits of Trophy Chasers:
- High Achievers: Trophy Chasers are usually very successful in their careers and personal achievements, but they don't always feel this success translates to their love life.
- Insecure Despite Confidence: They seem confident and capable, but deep inside, they doubt their worthiness for love and commitment.
- Put Partners on a Pedestal: They often idealize their partners, thinking they are better than they really are.
- Switch from Being Chased to Chasing: Initially, they are pursued, but once they show interest, they start chasing, trying to prove they are worthy.
- Overworking to Prove Worth: They tend to overthink and overwork in relationships to prove their value, often treating love like a competition or game.
What Trophy Chasers Experience:
- Exhaustion: Constantly trying to prove their worth can be mentally and emotionally draining.
- Frustration: When the dynamic flips and they have to start chasing, they can feel frustrated and confused.
- Insecurity: Despite their accomplishments, they never feel truly secure or worthy of their partner’s love.
Tips for Trophy Chasers:
- Focus on Your Own Life: Enjoy your hobbies, passions, and activities. When you're happy and fulfilled, you attract better relationships.
- Trust Your Instincts: Listen to your gut feelings about people and relationships.
- Let Others Pursue You: Allow yourself to be pursued. It's okay to let someone else show their interest in you.
- Take Actions That Make You Happy: Do things that bring you joy and fulfillment. When you're happy, love will find you.
- Believe in Your Worth: Know that you are deserving of love just as you are. You don’t have to prove it.
Wrapping Up
Understanding these patterns can help you recognize your own behavior in relationships. Here are a few things you can do to dig deeper:
1. Think About Your Past Relationships: Do you see any GlobeTrotter or Trophy Chaser traits in yourself?
2. Talk to Friends or Family: Sometimes, others can see things we miss about ourselves.
3. Jot Down Your Thoughts: Write about your feelings and experiences. This can help you understand your patterns better.
4. Learn More: Check out books or articles on relationships to get more insights.
By knowing whether you’re a GlobeTrotter or a Trophy Chaser, you can start making changes that lead to healthier, happier relationships. Understanding your Love Loop can help you heal and transform generational triggers and love blocks, enabling you to attract love and elevate your life to the next level.
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